"Real change, enduring change, happens one step at a time."
RUTH BADER GINGSBURG
Even on the coldest winter days, the warmth of the sun can bring comfort, solace, and a gentle yet resolute reminder that the snow will melt, the days will get longer, and the earth will bloom once again. Apricity is a deep breath of hopefulness – a feeling that embodies the therapeutic process.
WHAT'S IT LIKE TO WORK WITH ME?
Our work together will be collaborative, not authoritative. My aim is for you to have a counselling experience that is as rewarding as possible. To do this, we will work together to explore what works best for you and I encourage you to offer feedback on what you find helpful during our sessions.
Healing continues outside of the therapy room. You may learn new skills, techniques, or strategies in therapy that become more effective as you continue to practice them. The more you take what you learn inside the therapy room and apply it to your daily life, the more progress you will notice towards achieving your goals.
You value a therapist who can be honest and direct while staying compassionate and thoughtful in their delivery. Many people come to therapy because they feel stuck in familiar patterns that are no longer serving them. Being open to examining your experiences through a new perspective can help you to gain insights into the growth you are looking for.
You appreciate the lighter moments and can find occasional humour to be helpful for your therapeutic process. While humour can be used to cover more vulnerable emotions, I also believe that humour can be both a form of medicine and a tool for educating. Sometimes there are moments of lightness and laughter during therapy and I like to use humour in these ways if and when the moment calls for it.
I know what it’s like to sit on either side of the therapy room. I am human and experience the twists and turns life takes just like anyone else. I believe in the therapeutic relationship not only because of the growth and change I have witnessed in my clients, but also because of the impact that genuine, compassionate connection has had on my own life. I will bring this empathy for your experience into the therapy room as I support you through the challenges of leaning into discomfort.
WHAT'S IT LIKE TO WORK WITH ME?
You will be welcomed into a space where you get to fully be yourself. Therapy can be uncomfortable at times, as you speak about past experiences and engage in change. It is my greatest hope to create a warm, comforting space where you feel safe to be yourself and explore your inner world, knowing that all parts of you are accepted. I will meet all of your humanness with all of mine.
I care deeply about building a strong therapeutic relationship with you. I believe that the relationship we develop as therapist and client is the most important factor for change and transformation to occur. I honour that it takes time to build trust and security in relationship and recognize that it is earned, not automatically given. To build this relationship, I will meet you where you are at with empathy, humour, compassion, honesty, and respect.
You are comfortable working with a Registered Provisional Psychologist. As part of the registration process, I receive supervision from two very skilled psychologists, Meena Ramaswamy and Christy Hennig. They engage in session observation, review files/reports and provide feedback on how I can best support you in the therapeutic environment. I like to say that by working with me you get three therapists instead of one.
You have a willingness to be curious and engage in practice in and out of the therapy room. Therapy is a lot like research. We don’t know how things will turn out, but we have ideas of what could be helpful and will try different techniques, strategies and skills to figure out what works best for you. By being open and willing, we will be able to work together and you will be able to gain a better understanding of yourself, develop new perspectives and create new experiences as you heal.
You are the expert of your experiences and will be in the driver’s seat throughout the therapeutic process. It is important for your wisdom, insight and feedback to be incorporated into all the work we do together. I seek to collaborate with you to figure out what is most helpful, being flexible in my approach if we need to change course or try something new to meet your goals and support you in living the life you desire.
One of the most important predictors of success in therapy is the strength of the therapeutic alliance. Simply put – the better we jive together, the quicker and easier it will be to work together in achieving your goals. For that reason, we offer a free 15-minute consultation so you can have an opportunity to ask any questions you need and get a sense of what it would be like to work together prior to committing to a first session.
WHAT IS GROUNDING?
And how to use it.
Grounding is the process of using specific techniques that work to relax our nervous system and help us to connect to the present moment. These techniques often involve engaging one or more of our five senses and can help with decreasing feelings of anxiety.